Men: Why Do We Cheat? and What You Women should Do About It

Cheating leads to nowhere good, it is a straight down hill tumble to an inevitable reality, as sweet and exhilarating as it is during the act, it eventually catches up to us in our lives and sometimes exacts its retribution immediately. Cheating will audit your life and garnish your happiness eventually. It's fun while you are on the run and in the mix but it will leave you lonely remorseful and regretful, eventually maybe even clean out your bank account.We (men) tend to behave when you (women) get suspicious of our activity. We will act right for a while if we are confronted with incriminating evidence of our actions or if we are caught in some dubious act and, or put on probation, We may slow down for a while, but the habitual panty-chaser will find it hard to quit cold turkey. We over compensate for our behavior to the point where it's nauseating and extremely obvious that we are only performing because we are being watched, or we will pout and deny the accusations.

If your man is going to give up his dubious behavior, you have to test his chin and see if he is for real. If he really wants the relationship with you (and the family and kids) then he will pull it together and sever the ties to his addiction or he will make a genuine effort to change his behavior.Don't be fooled some of us are true addicts, we are strung out on the adrenalin of living dangerously, we love the thrill of dangling from the cliff of life. Illicit sex with strange women really gets us off. Some of us will have to be turned loose, or put into counseling: until you end the relationship or kick us out of the house, we won't acknowledge the reality of our plight nor the consequences of our actions.

Sometimes even when our entire family and future is in jeopardy, we still find it hard to make the right decision to let go of the life and the elements of distraction. At this point, you have to let go of us; you must have the courage to let us sink or swim so that we can experience the loss and the pain that we have invited upon ourselves. We are all tempted to some degree; to look, to fantasize or sadly to get involved. The destruction of lives is too high a price to pay for our wanton desires and only you can change this genocidal mind set.

If you as a woman care about being in a relationship with your man then you should find ways to explore the desires that tempt him to be with other women and communicate your willingness to fulfill those needs at home. You have to get creative in your domain; conjure up your own witches brew. The main ingredient is communication and a willingness to learn your man uniquely; what works in your girlfriend’s house will not necessarily work in yours. Don’t pout and act like you got it under control, complacency is the swamp from which this monster rises to terrorize your life. Yes, it is a job, and you cannot sleep on it, it doesn’t matter how beautiful, powerful, independent, strong or confident you are. You have to pay attention to your nest and nurture your life along, one day at a time. “the devil finds work for idle (hands) men” : engage him fully don’t let her take him because you are too busy to utilize him.
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