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I am of the opinion that anger and bitterness experienced by women from past broken relationships create a serious barrier when they attempt to make the move to the next relationship. The carry-on-baggage can prove to be a real stumbling-block in the way of progress. This flight may never be cleared for take off. The 'chip' from past hurts is sometimes very evident in the language and posture of women attempting to start fresh. I believe that taking time to examine past failed relationships and the circumstances surrounding them, which led up to the parting of ways, is vital in clearing out and airing out the mistakes made. It is important to see the events from an objective perspective and be able to see
the part you played in the demise of the relationship. The blame is usually not to be placed all on one person. It might be that you did not take enough time to screen your partner before you got intimately involved; I believe most mistakes are made at this stage of the relationship and many warning signs are ignored in the midst of the excitement of new fresh love. You cannot allow just any old lie to get by anymore, a man must make a concerted effort to come clean or lie profusely and prove that he is just that; a liar. You must follow proper protocol when you are considering getting involved with a man. After all most of the time, he is a total stranger. You need to gather enough information to make an informed decision before you enter into a partnership with this stranger. Stories need to be tested and actions should back up speech.
A man's agenda operates on a totally different wavelength than a woman's; most men are making a bee-line for the honey while women are meandering their way towards the heart of the man. As always, you are the keeper of the Hive and the protector of the inner sanctuary. Passion and anxiety can cloud an otherwise clear strong mind but good sense must persist and overcome at all cost. The hypocrisy of it all is that as hard as he is pressing, he is hoping that you will hold out and make a difference so that he is forced to hold you to a higher standard, therefore he can justify choosing you as the one that made the difference. Even if it doesn't work out he will always have you high on the respect totem pole, for having stood for your character and for sticking to your morals. You never win by jumping in. This is like double-dutch if you don't time it right you may get hit in the head with the rope. Remember men and women speak distinctly different languages and so do not be afraid to ask him to repeat anything that you do not understand when he speaks. A man with good intentions will be happy to ensure that you get his pitch and will not be offended when asked to back up his words. If you don’t test the quality of the man how will you know if you have rock or sand. Clear your mind and allow your feline intellect to claw at the truth, you need truth to make good decisions.
Feeling Bitter and resentful is a sure sign that you are not yet ready to rejoin the ranks of the intimately engaged. Leave the bruises behind but take the lessons with you for sure. The pain helps as a reminder but it needs to be held in check and not allowed to fester into resentment for MAN-kind in general. Each man deserves his own unbiased jury, Yes men have left a trail of bleeding hearts and broken souls in their mindless pursuit of the panties, but if women begin to put them through the necessary paces of qualifying for their affections, then the high rate of the heart-crimes would die down significantly. If women begin to respect each other’s relationships by not sleeping with men who are in relationships then they can force change in the behavior of men and ward off unnecessary hurt and disappointment in their lives. Hold yourselves responsible for that which you help to perpetuate in your own lives, then learn the lesson and change the patterns which bring you the same painful results repeatedly. Stop the perpetrators in their tracks and demand credibility of each one, before you let them on the stage of your hearts. Trust your instincts when something doesn’t feel right. Pause the tape and replay the scenes often to see if what he says complies with what he does. Keep your honey safe in the vault until you are certain that you are ready to make that plunge. Don’t be hurried, there is no prize for giving in early, you are only rushing in to your own demise. Don’t be callous and try to play a man’s game; you can’t win if it involves your self respect. If the stakes are too high don’t play his game.
Be the queen you are and remember this…
" A lady is a woman who makes a man behave like a gentle man." Russell Lynes.
Written by
MICHAEL ERIC MARKLAND Author of
Why The Hell Can’t I Find A Good Man?..from a man’s point of view
Email: michaelericmarkland@yahoo.com
Website: http://michaelericmarkland.com/preorder.htm
Book: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Hell-Cant-Find-Good/dp/1439250995/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1254433538&sr=1-1
the part you played in the demise of the relationship. The blame is usually not to be placed all on one person. It might be that you did not take enough time to screen your partner before you got intimately involved; I believe most mistakes are made at this stage of the relationship and many warning signs are ignored in the midst of the excitement of new fresh love. You cannot allow just any old lie to get by anymore, a man must make a concerted effort to come clean or lie profusely and prove that he is just that; a liar. You must follow proper protocol when you are considering getting involved with a man. After all most of the time, he is a total stranger. You need to gather enough information to make an informed decision before you enter into a partnership with this stranger. Stories need to be tested and actions should back up speech.
A man's agenda operates on a totally different wavelength than a woman's; most men are making a bee-line for the honey while women are meandering their way towards the heart of the man. As always, you are the keeper of the Hive and the protector of the inner sanctuary. Passion and anxiety can cloud an otherwise clear strong mind but good sense must persist and overcome at all cost. The hypocrisy of it all is that as hard as he is pressing, he is hoping that you will hold out and make a difference so that he is forced to hold you to a higher standard, therefore he can justify choosing you as the one that made the difference. Even if it doesn't work out he will always have you high on the respect totem pole, for having stood for your character and for sticking to your morals. You never win by jumping in. This is like double-dutch if you don't time it right you may get hit in the head with the rope. Remember men and women speak distinctly different languages and so do not be afraid to ask him to repeat anything that you do not understand when he speaks. A man with good intentions will be happy to ensure that you get his pitch and will not be offended when asked to back up his words. If you don’t test the quality of the man how will you know if you have rock or sand. Clear your mind and allow your feline intellect to claw at the truth, you need truth to make good decisions.
Feeling Bitter and resentful is a sure sign that you are not yet ready to rejoin the ranks of the intimately engaged. Leave the bruises behind but take the lessons with you for sure. The pain helps as a reminder but it needs to be held in check and not allowed to fester into resentment for MAN-kind in general. Each man deserves his own unbiased jury, Yes men have left a trail of bleeding hearts and broken souls in their mindless pursuit of the panties, but if women begin to put them through the necessary paces of qualifying for their affections, then the high rate of the heart-crimes would die down significantly. If women begin to respect each other’s relationships by not sleeping with men who are in relationships then they can force change in the behavior of men and ward off unnecessary hurt and disappointment in their lives. Hold yourselves responsible for that which you help to perpetuate in your own lives, then learn the lesson and change the patterns which bring you the same painful results repeatedly. Stop the perpetrators in their tracks and demand credibility of each one, before you let them on the stage of your hearts. Trust your instincts when something doesn’t feel right. Pause the tape and replay the scenes often to see if what he says complies with what he does. Keep your honey safe in the vault until you are certain that you are ready to make that plunge. Don’t be hurried, there is no prize for giving in early, you are only rushing in to your own demise. Don’t be callous and try to play a man’s game; you can’t win if it involves your self respect. If the stakes are too high don’t play his game.
Be the queen you are and remember this…
" A lady is a woman who makes a man behave like a gentle man." Russell Lynes.
Written by
MICHAEL ERIC MARKLAND Author of
Why The Hell Can’t I Find A Good Man?..from a man’s point of view
Email: michaelericmarkland@yahoo.com
Website: http://michaelericmarkland.com/preorder.htm
Book: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Hell-Cant-Find-Good/dp/1439250995/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1254433538&sr=1-1
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